I often worry about how Charlie’s autism affects Jude. Charlie gets rewarded for things that Jude has been able to do since he was a baby, and that’s hard for Jude to grasp. Why do we jump for joy when Charlie says “want bubbles” whereas Jude can speak full sentences (for hours on end) and it’s just a regular day? Why do we clap when Charlie uses a fork, whereas Jude is just expected to? And why do we cheer when Charlie washes his hands alone while Jude’s the one helping him? Because autism. As an adult, to me it makes sense. Charlie’s successes are different than his peers’, and we celebrate things on a different timeline to different degrees. But to a four-year-old, what does “autism” mean, and for him, does that excuse cut it? Being the brother of a severely autistic child I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that it probably feels unfair to Jude! When we celebrate the accomplishments of Charlie’s that Jude is able to do so naturally, Jude protests with a “but I can do it too!” And he’s right. He can do it too, and he can do so much … Continue reading Being the brother of a severely autistic child