Eight years ago, I was diagnosed with Autism Level 1.
For a while, that label fit. It made sense. It explained the parts of me I didn’t understand, the struggles I’d quietly been through my entire life, the quirks people didn’t always love but defined me nonetheless. It was a relief, at first—a lightbulb moment. But now? Now, I feel almost ashamed of it. Not because I’m ashamed of being autistic, but because of what that diagnosis has come to mean in the echo chamber of social media.
The autism spectrum is broad, nuanced, and wildly misunderstood. But you wouldn’t know that if you listened to some of the self-diagnosed or level 1 voices shouting over everyone else. They’re loud, sure, but they lack nuance. They’ve weaponized their perspective to dismiss anyone who doesn’t fit neatly into their narrative. And they’re drowning out the voices that need the most support and awareness—those of profoundly autistic individuals and the caregivers who fight for them every single day.
They mock caregivers like me for daring to share our truth.
They claim “severe autism” isn’t real, as if my son doesn’t exist.
They cry “ableism” at every turn but seem blind to their own hypocrisy. Let me be clear: I believe self-diagnosis has its place. But if they can self-diagnose, surely I can self-diagnose too, right? And today, I’m diagnosing myself as fed up.
Autism is a spectrum. My son is on one end of it, struggling with things most people can’t even fathom. He can’t communicate, he can’t be left alone for a second, and yes, he swallows screws. My challenges as a caregiver are light-years away from the experiences of someone who can wax poetic about masking while managing a TikTok account with 100,000 followers. But according to them, our reality doesn’t matter.
I don’t want to be lumped in with these voices anymore. If my level 1 diagnosis ties me to that toxicity, then I’m cutting the cord. Because their one-sided narrative is doing damage—not just to caregivers like me, but to the entire autism community.
If we want real acceptance, we need real awareness. And real awareness means acknowledging the entire spectrum.
Not just the shiny, Instagram-ready parts of it, but the hard parts too. The kind that makes you cry in the bathroom or Google “how to stop your kid from eating drywall” at 3 a.m. The kind that’s real, raw, and human.
We can do better. We have to.
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