All Autism

Autism is never an excuse to be an asshole

Autism is not an excuse

Autism does not excuse bullying.

Autism isn’t a license to be mean.

Autism cannot be used to justify abuse.

While it’s true that communication problems are a core issue of autism, it doesn’t mean we can use our diagnosis as a free pass to say whatever we want, and it doesn’t grant us immunity from the things we do say. Autistic people can be blunt, but we need to strive to express ourselves respectfully. Serious discussions or not, on social media or in person, it’s our responsibility to learn how to keep debate and disagreements civil. Indeed, autism can sometimes explain lousy behavior, but it doesn’t excuse the hurt it may cause. As an autistic person, I’ve unintentionally hurt people. But, I would never purposely hurt someone and then shift the responsibility to the diagnosis I carry.

Hurting others because you’re upset does not solve your problems — it just hurts you more.

Thanks for the letter board quote Planning Across the Spectrum

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    2021-08-07 at 7:29 AM

    im still ape so i can kill you if i want to

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    2021-08-07 at 5:57 PM

    Pretty sure it’s obvious, but in case anyone missed it, “LOL” wants you all to know that they’re the asshole referred to in this post, and that them being an asshole has nothing to do with whether they’re autistic. And also they’re an ape and allergic to capital letters and punctuation. 🙂

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    2021-11-27 at 6:47 AM

    Kindness is still a key to use against someone because you might not know what they’re going through.
    You don’t fight hate with hate, fight it with kindness – Quote from Dhar man

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      2022-03-06 at 8:49 PM

      It’s to the point where I don’t care and actively avoid people with autism because they WILL hurt you and then cry about it when called out. I used to be sympathetic but now I think you guys are unironically evil

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        Lisa George
        2022-03-22 at 3:30 AM

        I agree. Thanks for that response because you nailed it.

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        2022-03-22 at 3:32 AM

        I agree. Thanks for that response because you nailed it.

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    Jonny Bu'tthurt
    2021-12-19 at 8:12 PM

    most people with autism are arseholes, though not all arseholes have autism.

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    art teacher
    2022-04-27 at 1:33 AM

    I’m here because I just had a student be an asshole to me. His mother takes class with him to help “support” him and they *both* went off on me because I asked him to put his tablet away. This is a group sculpting class & he’s gaming & taking calls from his friends… I’ve never experienced this before because, you know, people sign up to make art. After I asked for the device to be put away, Mom asks him to put it away & he raises his fist to her like he’s going to strike. Mom saw my face & heard me say “whoa” (gut reaction) and she went off on me saying “he’s autistic, he’s autistic… I know my son…I don’t feel welcome or safe here… you make me feel like a crap mom…we’re going to leave.” It was crazy AND she claims to be a therapist. I’ve had students with different levels of autism before but felt compelled to search “What’s the difference between autism & being an asshole?” Your page came up.

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