You can be #actuallyautistic and not harass autism parents

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Autism and the #ActuallyAutistic community

I usually keep controversy off my blog but tonight I’ve decided to use my platform to speak up and shed some light on a dark side of the autism community in which there’s a great amount of controversy. To name some: the arguments on whether ABA therapy is abuse, debating a boycott of Autism Speaks, and whether parents should be allowed to speak about their child’s autism if they themselves are not autistic.

People from the #actuallyautistic community have been coming to my blog for years to harass me for not sharing their views on autism. Their attacks started again recently, and I’m tired of my recent silence on the issue for fear of incurring the wrath of those angry individuals. I often get messages from autism parents who completely stopped talking about their kids’ autism on social media out of total fear of being attacked by the #actuallyautistic. Enough is enough!

I’d like to also point out the irony in how these people justify their hateful actions in defense of “neurodiversity.” Yet by claiming that only autistic people should be able to speak about autism, they are excluding individuals like Charlie, who don’t have that luxury. So for now, I’ll be Charlie’s voice, and I’ll be the voice of parents who are too afraid to speak up. Raising an autistic child is lonely enough as it is. We don’t need that negativity from people who should be on our team. Be better. Be kind.

As an autistic adult, #actuallyautistic do not speak for me.

To all adults with autism, autistic adults or however you want to call yourself, who are respectful despite their different views. Thank you!

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    2019-08-14 at 3:21 PM

    Yes! Thank you!

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    2020-10-22 at 12:11 AM

    Well then perhaps you lot ought to stop telling us autistic men and women that because we are so-called ‘high functioning’ (a label which does nobody any good seeing as it gives the misunderstood belief that we don’t face very much hardship) we don’t need support. I shan’t be replying to any remarks you or anyone else in support of you and your laughable, dismissive and rude-ass attitudes

    As always, it really is always about autism warrior moms, aka individuals that don’t even live with autism themselves and so cannot REALLY say anything but do anyway …

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      2020-10-23 at 10:59 PM

      Except I’m autistic too.

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      2021-02-10 at 9:26 AM

      Exactly what I have been saying! Its getting ridiculous. We are usually the bullied ones why do it too?

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