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Charlie, Today was one of those days. We got the results back from your PPCD speech assessment. They evaluated your ability to communicate. If your delays in speech and communication…
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Boho Modern Furniture for your kids’ room I’ve been hunting for cute MCM furniture for the boys’ room for months. I like natural earthy colors. Wood over plastic. Plain rather than…
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The Bûche de Noël tradition From growing up in France, there are a few traditions that I miss. One of them is eating Bûche de Noël for Christmas. It’s a thin,…
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What are the advantages of a Montessori approach? The biggest factor in our decision to adopt a Montessori approach with Jude is how it fosters independence in children. When Jude started…
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Get Eileen Lamb ‘s book, All Across the Spectrum here Autism and the #ActuallyAutistic community I usually keep controversy off my blog but tonight I’ve decided to use my platform to…
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Get Eileen Lamb ‘s book, All Across the Spectrum here Let’s debunk a few myths about autism. 1 – Autistic people lack empathy and are incapable of feelings. False. It’s a…
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Pre-Order Eileen Lamb ‘s book, All Across the Spectrum here When you overthink everything When you’re the girl who overthinks, everything becomes more complex. You analyze every little detail — every…
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Get Eileen Lamb ‘s book, All Across the Spectrum here Before I became a mom You know when I was the best mom I’ve ever been? Before I actually had kids.…
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Pre-Order Eileen Lamb ‘s book, All Across the Spectrum here Symptoms of autism: How did you know Charlie was autistic? I often get messages asking me questions… How did you know he…
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Pre-Order Eileen Lamb ‘s book, All Across the Spectrum here To the people who are fighting invisible battles—the people who hurt in silence from the fear that their feelings are a…
![Jude’s been having a lot of anxiety lately. He told Willy and I, with tears in his eyes, that he doesn’t like school because he misses us when he’s there. He’s been asking for hugs and affection even more so than usual. He’s also asked us if Charlie loves him even though he doesn’t say it and if we still love him when he makes bad choices... I can relate so much to his needs and worries. I’m thankful he’s expressing himself so well so I can give him the reassurance he needs but also kinda sad he’s overthinking so much at just 4.
I can’t help but worry that being so soft will make Jude vulnerable as he gets older because we live in a world that shames sensitive boys. The expectation is that boys have to be strong. I wish for people to realize that feeling deeply has nothing to do with not being strong. Feeling deeply in a world where vulnerability is considered a sign of weakness shows strength. It takes courage to be yourself, to allow yourself whatever it is you need to feel in that moment. Of course, Jude doesn’t have that level of thought yet. He feels deeply because that’s who he is and he doesn’t have the protective reaction from these emotions yet. But instead of encouraging him to not get so overwhelmed by his strong emotions, I encourage him to focus on his feelings and express them. I don’t want Jude to “toughen up” and bottle up all his emotions. I did that for too long because this is what I was taught as a child. I don’t want Jude to harden because the world expects him to. I do hope people will treat his fragile heart with kindness. All the love he gives so selflessly, he deserves to come back at him like a boomerang
[My book is being released tomorrow and I don’t think I have fully realized what it means yet 😳]](http://scontent-frx5-1.cdninstagram.com/vp/4e46bbdda6f033e07282513cb4fd9c81/5DD33793/t51.2885-15/e35/c0.180.1440.1440/s320x320/66652712_489232684984713_1591966773832259102_n.jpg?_nc_ht=scontent-frx5-1.cdninstagram.com "Jude’s been having a lot of anxiety lately. He told Willy and I, with tears in his eyes, that he doesn’t like school because he misses us when he’s there. He’s been asking for hugs and affection even more so than usual. He’s also asked us if Charlie loves him even though he doesn’t say it and if we still love him when he makes bad choices... I can relate so much to his needs and worries. I’m thankful he’s expressing himself so well so I can give him the reassurance he needs but also kinda sad he’s overthinking so much at just 4.
I can’t help but worry that being so soft will make Jude vulnerable as he gets older because we live in a world that shames sensitive boys. The expectation is that boys have to be strong. I wish for people to realize that feeling deeply has nothing to do with not being strong. Feeling deeply in a world where vulnerability is considered a sign of weakness shows strength. It takes courage to be yourself, to allow yourself whatever it is you need to feel in that moment. Of course, Jude doesn’t have that level of thought yet. He feels deeply because that’s who he is and he doesn’t have the protective reaction from these emotions yet. But instead of encouraging him to not get so overwhelmed by his strong emotions, I encourage him to focus on his feelings and express them. I don’t want Jude to “toughen up” and bottle up all his emotions. I did that for too long because this is what I was taught as a child. I don’t want Jude to harden because the world expects him to. I do hope people will treat his fragile heart with kindness. All the love he gives so selflessly, he deserves to come back at him like a boomerang
[My book is being released tomorrow and I don’t think I have fully realized what it means yet 😳]")
