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Pre-Order Eileen Lamb ‘s book, All Across the Spectrum here Symptoms of autism: How did you know Charlie was autistic? I often get messages asking me questions… How did you know he…
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This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of the American Dental Association. December will be here in no time, and there’ll be so much to do. Between…
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Nobody likes losing things Have you ever wished you could pick up your phone and give your lost set of keys a call to find them? Isn’t it frustrating…
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Happy Halloween! Every year towards the end of August, I start thinking about what costumes I want the boys to wear for Halloween. This year, for the third year in the…
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This post is sponsored by Tai Pei but all opinions expressed are my own. If you’re a regular reader of my blog, you already know by now that I struggle with…
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Thank you for supporting my blog If you had told me a few years ago when I still lived in France that I would be working with brands like Coca-Cola, Google,…
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This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Skinner® pasta. The perfect meal for any occasion It’s finally starting to feel like like fall here in Texas. The…
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Baby Jude When we decided to conceive Jude, we didn’t know yet that Charlie had autism. Would we have waited longer if we had known? I don’t know. Maybe. Jude brings…
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This post is sponsored by Beddy’s, all opinions expressed are my own Last year, Jude was evaluated for autism. He showed some red flags but also a lot of encouraging signs.…
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Autism and Clothing When Charlie was younger, getting him dressed was a challenge. Autism is often accompanied by sensory issues, and Charlie’s no different. He used to fight us every day…
![Jude’s been having a lot of anxiety lately. He told Willy and I, with tears in his eyes, that he doesn’t like school because he misses us when he’s there. He’s been asking for hugs and affection even more so than usual. He’s also asked us if Charlie loves him even though he doesn’t say it and if we still love him when he makes bad choices... I can relate so much to his needs and worries. I’m thankful he’s expressing himself so well so I can give him the reassurance he needs but also kinda sad he’s overthinking so much at just 4.
I can’t help but worry that being so soft will make Jude vulnerable as he gets older because we live in a world that shames sensitive boys. The expectation is that boys have to be strong. I wish for people to realize that feeling deeply has nothing to do with not being strong. Feeling deeply in a world where vulnerability is considered a sign of weakness shows strength. It takes courage to be yourself, to allow yourself whatever it is you need to feel in that moment. Of course, Jude doesn’t have that level of thought yet. He feels deeply because that’s who he is and he doesn’t have the protective reaction from these emotions yet. But instead of encouraging him to not get so overwhelmed by his strong emotions, I encourage him to focus on his feelings and express them. I don’t want Jude to “toughen up” and bottle up all his emotions. I did that for too long because this is what I was taught as a child. I don’t want Jude to harden because the world expects him to. I do hope people will treat his fragile heart with kindness. All the love he gives so selflessly, he deserves to come back at him like a boomerang
[My book is being released tomorrow and I don’t think I have fully realized what it means yet 😳]](http://scontent-lhr3-1.cdninstagram.com/vp/10cfb0c4703c355640c764d841f2f039/5DFAC493/t51.2885-15/e35/c0.180.1440.1440/s320x320/66652712_489232684984713_1591966773832259102_n.jpg?_nc_ht=scontent-lhr3-1.cdninstagram.com "Jude’s been having a lot of anxiety lately. He told Willy and I, with tears in his eyes, that he doesn’t like school because he misses us when he’s there. He’s been asking for hugs and affection even more so than usual. He’s also asked us if Charlie loves him even though he doesn’t say it and if we still love him when he makes bad choices... I can relate so much to his needs and worries. I’m thankful he’s expressing himself so well so I can give him the reassurance he needs but also kinda sad he’s overthinking so much at just 4.
I can’t help but worry that being so soft will make Jude vulnerable as he gets older because we live in a world that shames sensitive boys. The expectation is that boys have to be strong. I wish for people to realize that feeling deeply has nothing to do with not being strong. Feeling deeply in a world where vulnerability is considered a sign of weakness shows strength. It takes courage to be yourself, to allow yourself whatever it is you need to feel in that moment. Of course, Jude doesn’t have that level of thought yet. He feels deeply because that’s who he is and he doesn’t have the protective reaction from these emotions yet. But instead of encouraging him to not get so overwhelmed by his strong emotions, I encourage him to focus on his feelings and express them. I don’t want Jude to “toughen up” and bottle up all his emotions. I did that for too long because this is what I was taught as a child. I don’t want Jude to harden because the world expects him to. I do hope people will treat his fragile heart with kindness. All the love he gives so selflessly, he deserves to come back at him like a boomerang
[My book is being released tomorrow and I don’t think I have fully realized what it means yet 😳]")
